Do I Miss The Corporate World?

hell, yes.

i miss dressing up in sharp yet girly dresses and high heels. i miss my bosses. i miss having lunchmates.

however, i don’t miss the office politics. i don’t miss the sometimes long, yet, unproductive meetings. i don’t miss gossipy officemates.

i had several job opportunities since last year, all enticing me to return to the (far from) glamorous corporate world. there had been openings for EA (executive assistant) posts that i had to turn down not because i am tired of being a right hand (and honestly, everybody’s slave) already, but because the 9-5 job doesn’t seem to cut it for me anymore.

i am friends with some of my colleagues from my last employer and sometimes, i feel a twinge of envy whenever i see their pictures of company events. my previous company was the bomb, i should say that. i love my bosses there and we still keep in touch until now. our benefits were quite generous (maternity benefits included) and we had fun parties and other pakulos. 

whenever i think about going back to the corporate world, i get excited. maybe we could just manage it. maybe an office near the children’s school would be more suitable. maybe it’s time for me to take those high heels out of their boxes and try my luck.

don’t get me wrong. i enjoy working from home. its flexibility is what a mother who shuttles her children to and from school needs. i may have to be more disciplined with a routine now, but i hardly get bored because i work on different tasks for every client. but you know. i have snagged my first job two months after graduating from college and didn’t take breaks in between jobs. i was with the printer company for almost six years. i have been working non-stop for ten years, before i unexpectedly quit. of course, i would miss being chained to a desk  a proper office setting. LOL.

sigh. i have been telling myself that should i want to go back to an office, i have to do it this year. otherwise, i would be too old to compete with those young ‘uns who are more aggressive and willing to settle with whatever the company would offer. the only thing keeping me from jumping, aside from the children’s schedule, is this project i am starting.

ah, choices. and priorities.  i wish life was as easy as choosing the perfect lipstick shade for the day. kids, this is real life.

Friday Musings

i was ready to welcome friday with a huge grin on my face until i read my twitter timeline.

another one of malaysian airline’s plane met a tragic end. according to reports, it was hit by a ground-to-air missile fired from easter ukraine. as to who exactly did it and for what purpose, the investigations are still trying to find out.

two hundred ninety eight lives lost this morning. two hundred ninety eight people, whose relatives are now mourning for, didn’t know as they boarded that boeing 777 that their fate had been decided for. out of the 298 passengers, three of them were filipinos. indeed, it was a gloomy 5 am for me, despite the ray of sunshine peeking through our windows.

i can’t imagine the terror and the fear of the truth that you may, or well, are going to die that same minute. does it grip your heart like a cold vise until you could no longer breath? does the mind still try to fight through the racing horror-mones to think of ways to come out of the situation, not unscathed but, at least alive?

the most heartbreaking thing of all is the grief of the families, relatives and friends left behind. how do you get over the pain of losing someone you love because someone had the bright idea of shooting them down with a missile? these people are innocent. they are not pawns to any game you’re trying to play with anyone.

plane crash stories like these are just :(

i am not exactly afraid of flying. i am more scared of boat rides because ahem, i cannot swim. although yeah, the chances of surviving a sinking ship is greater than a plane crash.

my mother always warned us not to travel together, but how could we not? i worry when the kids are away from me, even if they’re just at home and i am running errands. it’s stressful but does a parent ever stop worrying about their children?  so yes, as much as possible, i try not to let any of my children travel without me these days. during the most recent boat trip where we left cebu at 10PM, my mind wandered again, and while i was lying in one of the bunk beds trying to sleep, i was also trying to come up with a strategy on how to make sure that my kids would have life vests and we would never get separated should a disaster strike. i know. paranoid much.

every time we travel, i pray really hard for protection and safety. i don’t mind having to go through countless hours of waiting for a plane or a boat as long as we get to our destination safe and sound. although, sigh, it’s such a bitch to wait for delayed trips =P

this why i think i am so attached to knight, which has been our constant travel buddy for five years now. we have scaled the treacherous roads of don salvador benedicto at 12mn, avoiding traps and “checkpoints,” and arrived in binalbagan at 3am one december night when i was still pregnant with ico. the husband didn’t come home with us so i endured the long drive while pregnant at three months.

the next december, we left binalbagan at 1AM to catch the 7AM ferry to bohol in dumaguete. knight never failed us. it had smoothly maneuvered every curve and corner of the mabinay route while our guardian angel flew quietly above us.

life is fleeting. one day you’re plotting vacation schedules, the next, a missile cuts your life short. we don’t hold our fate, but i guess we can live each day as if we may not have tomorrow to wake up to.

such a morbid way to say hello to friday, yes? let’s all pray for the souls of the 298 passengers of MH17, most especially for the families and loved ones they left behind, that they may find the strength to slowly overcome this tragedy.

Farewell, Lola


Lolita and Geronimo’s children and grandchildren

our dear lola lolit finally breathe her last breath last february 1, a friday, after more than a decade of battling with alzheimer’s disease.

she was just at home with us, and it was just like her to make everything so easy for all of us to process documents and arrangements for her last week on earth. needless to say, that week was a flurry of guests coming in and out to pay their final respects to a teacher, friend and sister, cooking up a storm for family and relatives, and reminiscing who she was to people who know her. and well, as they say, you have more chances of gathering families together during a loved one’s death than say, a birthday or any other celebration. all her seven children and 17 grandchildren (except for one, i forget, the one who studies in manila cannot come home) were there to be with her and we just knew how happy she must be to see everyone just being there for each other.

this post is for her, my brave Lola who conquered and sacrificed everything for love.

All Consolacion girls should come with a disclaimer: our grandmother was an Ilocana. Anger at your own risk.

It’s bit hard to refer to our feisty Lola in the past tense. I guess it’s like that for anyone who has been a fixture in your life ever since. I would say we, my sisters and our cousins, are quite lucky to have had experienced what was it like to be pampered and adored and spoiled by a grandmother. Lola Lolit may have been strict. Well, she was strict. But listening to a former student of hers tell how she would give baon to her pupils who didn’t have snacks affirmed my memory of her being generous, not only to her family, but to other people, as well.

Whenever people would notice how I would speak Tagalog without that tell-tale Ilonggo accent, I would always explain how our Lola would talk to us in Tagalog sometimes. Especially when she was mad. “Ay naku, naku” and “Ewan ko ba” were some of her favorite expressions.

During late afternoons, after watering all the plants in our garden, Lola would play the piano and I would sit beside her, marveling at how quick her fingers would jump from one key to another. Of all the songs she would play, I liked “How Great Thou Art,” “By the Sweet By and By,” and “Onward Christian Solders.” Before I had formal piano lessons, she taught me the basics. But the child in me wanted to play outside more than dedicate more time learning the piano. One thing I regret now, especially when I think how Lola would’ve loved her grandchildren to use the family piano.

I have learned to appreciate Sundays, even if it meant having school the next day, because Sundays always meant a sumptuous lunch with the family. Lola would spend the whole morning bustling around the kitchen, cooking either chicken tinola with atay, beef nilaga, beef pochero, chicken with white beans and meat torta that resembled a big pie. I can seriously taste Lola’s distinct cooking, making my taste buds quite choosy and hard-to-please whenever I would eat the same dishes now.

Lola would make me write her presentations and tests on manila paper, and for a time I liked the thought of being a teacher. I only changed my mind one time when I went with her to school and saw how the veins on her neck would pop up while giving lectures and at the same time scolding pupils.

It seemed that she had wanted me to become a doctor as we didn’t have one in the family yet. She would tell me how we’d both go to Manila together and how she’d take care of me while I would be studying. I am sorry that it didn’t happen. Or that I didn’t become a doctor for that matter.

We had lived with her for 11 years and I would never trade those 11 years for anything. If I will try to tell you all of my memories of her, we should have started earlier. That’s why seeing her being frail and not being able to talk and saunter, yes, she doesn’t walk, she saunters, had been very painful. It’s very difficult to imagine that the once on-the- go and healthy grandmother I knew had been reduced to a very thin and pale-looking woman on the bed. Yet her cheekbones and chin remained the same, looking strong and proud even up to her last minute.

I can’t remember being scolded by Lola ever, despite how angry she would seem at times. She may not be as doting as other grandmothers, but she showed her affection in other ways. Like letting me sit beside her when she makes her lesson plans, no matter how annoying and distracting a five-year old can get. Preparing her own special concoction of burnt onions to be applied on my throat whenever I had cough. Making me drink a raw egg whenever I wasn’t feeling well. Giving me weekly baon when I finally went to high school. Fondly calling me apo.

I wish I had been more curious before and asked about her childhood when she still had her memory intact. It wasn’t until 3 years ago when I learned that she was an orphan who took the chance with an Ilonggo, venturing into an almost foreign land, raising 7 children and only finishing college when her youngest child was old enough. It would’ve been great to hear her own thoughts, knowing how candid she can get. Nothing like an interesting narrative told in the first person. Not by someone who claimed to be a close relative of the Marcoses. Must be where she got her eloquence, as the former President was such a charming talker.

Lola may be a lot of things, but she will always be this headstrong, thoughtful, generous, kindhearted person whom I will be forever thankful for being my grandmother. She is a survivor, in more ways than one and getting at least half of her strength in facing all of life’s challenges is something I fervently wish.

I seldom dream of her but the few times I did when she was still alive, she looked happy and contented. And there’s nothing more I hope and pray for now than for her to be reunited with our Lolo, in a happy place. She deserves peace and happiness, wherever she may be.

I will miss seeing her inside her room during the few times I would take a peek at how she’s doing. The only consolation for us now is that she’s not in pain anymore. That’s enough to comfort all the bereaved she left behind.

Rest in peace, La.

Patience May Be A Virtue but It’s Not Mine

i never really knew if you were coming up or not. but still, i waited. read a few chapters of my book and waited. ate lunch, had some drinks and waited. i patiently passed the time because to me, you were worth every second, every hour.

people passed me by, curious. a friend even cajoled me to take an earlier trip. but i refused. because i wanted to be there when you finally step foot on the station. i held that fervent wish that you’d get over whatever silliness has come over you and finally find me.

but you didn’t. so with a heart as heavy as my luggage, i moved on.

only to see you walking towards the train as it slowly carried me away from you.